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An update. I feel so fortunate. Back at home with the family, had a very long and frank discussion with Mrs Rents. She'll continue supporting me as long as I don't drink, which is obviously fair enoug

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Had a couple a nights away in Keswick, got back yesterday morning. As is often the case I usually wake up at daft o’clock when I’m not at home in my own bed. Preoccupied with thoughts of today’s match

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Last night I was sitting in the lounge minding my own business after the kids were put to bed.  I had the big light on.  Wor lass walked into the room and turned the big light off, fuck knows why.   S

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I fucking hate inconsiderate cunts, I went to Morrisons and saw a big white van had parked across 3 disabled spaces. I was totally fuming and forgot to take my phone in which had my list, I went back out and two lads were getting in said van. I casually pointed out that they were no good vagabonds doing a disservice to the planet and one replied back with a makem accent. At which point I may have lost my temper a little. I ended up getting escorted back into morrisons by two old ladies who had parked in a disabled bay who also gave the two arseholes a piece of their mind. I'm still quite vexed at the situation.

 

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She did effectively call Corbyn a nazi and it did make her look stupid. If that effects her reputation then its fair enough. 

 

I'd be fucked off if I was the person who lost. 

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She did effectively call Corbyn a nazi and it did make her look stupid. If that effects her reputation then its fair enough. 

 

I'd be fucked off if I was the person who lost. 

 

Was a red nose emoji code for Corbyn then?...

 

 

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This year can just get to fuck. My Dad has been told he has a choice of having his leg amputated, and probably be bed bound in pain for the rest of his life, or he can be left to die now drugged up on morphine. I'm seeing him tomorrow and will have to talk it through with him. I feel like I'm losing it, what do I say? Why the fuck does it have to end like this? I don't want this choice, and I don't want him to have this choice. Everything is so fucked up. He hasn't seen my kids since August, he'll probably never get to see them ever again now (only one person allowed to visit him at a time). The truth is he's already given up and I can't help him. I'm so sorry this has happened to you Dad. I just want to remember you as you were just a few months ago. 

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23 minutes ago, Renton said:

This year can just get to fuck. My Dad has been told he has a choice of having his leg amputated, and probably be bed bound in pain for the rest of his life, or he can be left to die now drugged up on morphine. I'm seeing him tomorrow and will have to talk it through with him. I feel like I'm losing it, what do I say? Why the fuck does it have to end like this? I don't want this choice, and I don't want him to have this choice. Everything is so fucked up. He hasn't seen my kids since August, he'll probably never get to see them ever again now (only one person allowed to visit him at a time). The truth is he's already given up and I can't help him. I'm so sorry this has happened to you Dad. I just want to remember you as you were just a few months ago. 


Sorry to hear this Renton. It’s horrible. Is he still of fairly sound mind? If so, just go and listen to how he feels. It’s a lot harder for those left behind. 
 

I don’t know your situation but maybe there’s a chance to get him home and see out his time surrounded by those who love him?

 

I went through a similar scenario with my Dad where I wanted everything done to prolong life and in the end my mother decided enough was enough. She was right.

 

No easy answers. Thoughts with you at this very tough time.

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Sorry to hear this Renton. It’s horrible. Is he still of fairly sound mind? If so, just go and listen to how he feels. It’s a lot harder for those left behind. 
 

I don’t know your situation but maybe there’s a chance to get him home and see out his time surrounded by those who love him?

 

I went through a similar scenario with my Dad where I wanted everything done to prolong life and in the end my mother decided enough was enough. She was right.

 

No easy answers. Thoughts with you at this very tough time.

 

Genuine thanks for this response. Your wisest ever post. Logically I think he should ve left to pass, but I know I won't be able to just let him go. He's also a Catholic. Really dreading tomorrow. 

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That is awful mate. I've no idea what this situation would feel like so I won't try to offer anything other than to say that I'm really sorry you're having to go through with it on top of what has already been a really shit year.

 

Your courage in the face of this is admirable.

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This year can just get to fuck. My Dad has been told he has a choice of having his leg amputated, and probably be bed bound in pain for the rest of his life, or he can be left to die now drugged up on morphine. I'm seeing him tomorrow and will have to talk it through with him. I feel like I'm losing it, what do I say? Why the fuck does it have to end like this? I don't want this choice, and I don't want him to have this choice. Everything is so fucked up. He hasn't seen my kids since August, he'll probably never get to see them ever again now (only one person allowed to visit him at a time). The truth is he's already given up and I can't help him. I'm so sorry this has happened to you Dad. I just want to remember you as you were just a few months ago. 

That's shit and I wish for you and your family's sake it wasn't. If there's any way the amputation doesn't have the worst case scenario that you've described then I would hope for everyone's sake that's the answer but it must be a nightmare for you all anyway without this covid shit and it's limitations. 

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Really feel for you Renton, I went through similar feelings when my Dad died. 

I had a chat with my two kids when it was clear my Dad was on his way out, and asked them what their best, and last memories of him were- told them to keep those memories, because they wouldn’t want to see , and remember, him as poorly as he was. 
 

I’ve got to say that end-of-life care in this country is medieval tbh- my Dad essentially starved to death. 
We treat dogs more humanely than we do our elderly, since the law doesn’t allow anything else. 

 

Take care of yourself mate. 

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This year can just get to fuck. My Dad has been told he has a choice of having his leg amputated, and probably be bed bound in pain for the rest of his life, or he can be left to die now drugged up on morphine. I'm seeing him tomorrow and will have to talk it through with him. I feel like I'm losing it, what do I say? Why the fuck does it have to end like this? I don't want this choice, and I don't want him to have this choice. Everything is so fucked up. He hasn't seen my kids since August, he'll probably never get to see them ever again now (only one person allowed to visit him at a time). The truth is he's already given up and I can't help him. I'm so sorry this has happened to you Dad. I just want to remember you as you were just a few months ago. 

Really sorry to hear that, mate. 

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I'm glad we have so many wise souls on here because I've got nothing useful to say. So sorry to hear what you're going through, Renton. Don't stop talking about it, sometimes venting is all we've got.

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I think I've mentioned before on here that I don't really like Christmas for personal reasons - I might as well explain a bit in this context that the reason is my dad died at about this time 30 years ago as it happens so I feel your pain Renton though his was relatively sudden. It was my Mam I had the whole end of life experience with when I too came to regret the state of the laws on that subject. 

 

It's a shit thing we all have to go through. I think saying it's part of life is a bit too easy even if sort of true but that doesn't make it okay. 

 

 

 

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Very sorry to hear that Renton and for all the other terrible shit you’ve been through this year.

 

I can’t begin to imagine what your conversation will be like tomorrow but at least your dad has the very best person he could have to talk it through with him. Life is just unfair at times. 

 

 

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13 minutes ago, PaddockLad said:

So sorry to hear Rents , we let our mum go…the doctors gave us a choice, we just couldn’t bare to see her suffer….it was terrible but for the best…

 

It's amazing how many people have been in similar situations  and really has helped today, thanks yo you all. You know I think  it's the fact we nominally have a choice that I'm struggling with here, bring back didactic medicine I say, that way I can't be involved in a "wrong" choice!. My Dad is compis mentis so ultimately I will support him 100% whatever he wants to do. He's had a good innings. Just this year with him losing his daughter and all the covid restriction shite, its been so hard. 

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