ewerk 31587 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 My advice is don't mistake a simple error for the death knell for your relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LeazesMag 0 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Mine mate She took it quite well like. Too much guilt on me and if I am honest, the moment I started seeing this bird I knew it was over. stick to the gut feeling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddy 17 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 join the singles club mate, all the best Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 My advice is don't mistake a simple error for the death knell for your relationship. It was an error aye, but its everything else. I feel awrful and I have a thing in the back of my head thats saying "Is this the right decision" but I think thats just natural? Isnt it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Stevie Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 My advice is don't mistake a simple error for the death knell for your relationship. It was an error aye, but its everything else. I feel awrful and I have a thing in the back of my head thats saying "Is this the right decision" but I think thats just natural? Isnt it? You should have FOUR MONTHS flashing in your mind, like a strobe light, and the only conclusion you can draw is I've done the right thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 Well aye lol I am looking at what to do now. Obviously lots to sort out first, house etc and then I think its time to look for a fresh start. We have offices all over the Globe, but the pull of Newcastle and Manchester is strong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alex Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Get yourself abroad for a bit man. Fucking hell, if you're moving from Leeds to Manc or the Toon you might as well stay where you are. It's not like it needs to be forever either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 Get yourself abroad for a bit man. Fucking hell, if you're moving from Leeds to Manc or the Toon you might as well stay where you are. It's not like it needs to be forever either. Sent my CV to our offices in Austrilasia and the US just now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alex Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Get yourself abroad for a bit man. Fucking hell, if you're moving from Leeds to Manc or the Toon you might as well stay where you are. It's not like it needs to be forever either. Sent my CV to our offices in Austrilasia and the US just now Good lad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 Get yourself abroad for a bit man. Fucking hell, if you're moving from Leeds to Manc or the Toon you might as well stay where you are. It's not like it needs to be forever either. Sent my CV to our offices in Austrilasia and the US just now Good lad. Would love to work in NYC or the USA, mind you even Asia has got some wicked high rise stuff, so its all good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kid Dynamite 7312 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Fucking hell the lad came on here to ask for advice to make things up with his gf and now weve convinced him to fling her, sell his house and move to Australia! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alex Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 I'm saying if he's decided to move away for a bit, why go to Manc or Newcastle when his company has offices all over the world. The time away will probably give him a different perspective and he'll realise what he wants to do re: his lass. Moving to another northern city seems a bit pointless given the options he has. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Park Life 71 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Move to LA if possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alex Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Move to LA if possible. Have you been? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Park Life 71 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Move to LA if possible. Have you been? 9 times. I've got a couple of 'friends' there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest alex Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Move to LA if possible. Have you been? 9 times. I've got a couple of 'friends' there. 50 cent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gemmill 47064 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Don't move to LA. There's plenty better places to live in the US. And I like LA. Anyway, sorry to hear about you and the missus, but take alex's advice and get yourself abroad. Do it now before you end up tied down. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetleftpeg 0 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Gemmill could tell you all about some 'clubs' he used to frequent in San Francisco. You'll get more than just flowers in your hair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gemmill 47064 Posted October 31, 2008 Share Posted October 31, 2008 Silence, Frodo! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Share Posted October 31, 2008 Silence, Frodo! I dont mind where I go, I aint a sun person, I mean I like it dont get me wrong but somewhere like NYC would suit me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wykikitoon 21482 Posted November 4, 2008 Author Share Posted November 4, 2008 Right, a little update. I finished the bird on Thursday. Fri went out with my mate and didnt feel great, was still thinking, "Is this the right thing". Anyways, Saturday I was thinking most of the day, no its not. If she and I were having regular sex and we both worked on XYZ it would be better. Anyways, I get along with her parents well, so I decided I would meet her Dad on Siunday and have a chat. Sunday came, went to the pub and I have him my side of the story. He didnt know about the bedroom dept and said that its not healthy in a relationship to have no sex like that. I told him other issues he said we needed to talk. Ive basically told him Ive talked until were blue in the face. So, Sunday afternoon, I texted her and asked if we could meet. I told her I was having second thoughts and if she is willing to give me another chance then ill give her another. Anyhow, we had a good night, went for a drive, some pizza and even had a kiss and cuddle Monday, I went back home (been staying at my mates) We had a good night and had a session I went to sleep well and its the best sleep ive had in weeks. Anyhow, goes to work, all good, we email each othera couple of times. I then got an email this afternoon "How about next weekend we goto the Lakes" Thats all fair but Ive already organised a night out with my mate. Now, before anyone jumps on me and says "A relationship on the line is more important" She knew about this and it was a re-arranged one because I originally was meant to be going to Manchester on my mates Bday and she didnt want me to go!! So I basically said, its X's Bday, Ive re-arranged it already what am I supposed to do? Anyhow, got an email back "Will discuss tonight" So basically she was pissed off. So, gets home tonight, waiting for her to come home. Then gets a text off her old man. "You two need to urgently come round to ours,your going to send X and I to an early grave" So I called her and asked wtf was going on. She replied with "Im still worried about a few things" Anyways, goto her parents, shes not there yet, we talk about what theyve done etc then she comes in. Her old man says along the lines of "RIght. you two need to organise yourselves, were sick of it and you either work it out or if you wanna be single, to put it bluntyly fuck off" So then she says "I feel Ive got to arrange my weeeknds etc around your mates" Shes know this for 3 - 4 weeks now! So I explained that Ive re-arranged my weekends for hockey for 3 fucking years. Her mother said "Well when you first started going out with her you knew about this" Yes, and have I moaned once? NO have I fuck! So we gets home, my piss is boiling and she says she is insecure at the moment. What the fuck do I do? She has NEVER re-arranged one of her do's for us, I know these circumstances are a little different but ive already cancelled a full weekend away for her. I feel like Im going out with a 11 year old who keeps crying to her parents for fuck sake. Anyways, she is out now with her SINGLE mate at the pub on a mountaineering club night so she can "Meet like minded people, weve been meaning to do this for years" Well, if you join that, Ill never fucking see you will I? I suppose thats my fucking fault? Sorry to bore you all but what the fuck can I do? Can I fucking win? She says she loves me and we can work it out but can we? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tooj 17 Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 Right, a little update. I finished the bird on Thursday. Fri went out with my mate and didnt feel great, was still thinking, "Is this the right thing". Anyways, Saturday I was thinking most of the day, no its not. If she and I were having regular sex and we both worked on XYZ it would be better. Anyways, I get along with her parents well, so I decided I would meet her Dad on Siunday and have a chat. Sunday came, went to the pub and I have him my side of the story. He didnt know about the bedroom dept and said that its not healthy in a relationship to have no sex like that. I told him other issues he said we needed to talk. Ive basically told him Ive talked until were blue in the face. So, Sunday afternoon, I texted her and asked if we could meet. I told her I was having second thoughts and if she is willing to give me another chance then ill give her another. Anyhow, we had a good night, went for a drive, some pizza and even had a kiss and cuddle Monday, I went back home (been staying at my mates) We had a good night and had a session I went to sleep well and its the best sleep ive had in weeks. Anyhow, goes to work, all good, we email each othera couple of times. I then got an email this afternoon "How about next weekend we goto the Lakes" Thats all fair but Ive already organised a night out with my mate. Now, before anyone jumps on me and says "A relationship on the line is more important" She knew about this and it was a re-arranged one because I originally was meant to be going to Manchester on my mates Bday and she didnt want me to go!! So I basically said, its X's Bday, Ive re-arranged it already what am I supposed to do? Anyhow, got an email back "Will discuss tonight" So basically she was pissed off. So, gets home tonight, waiting for her to come home. Then gets a text off her old man. "You two need to urgently come round to ours,your going to send X and I to an early grave" So I called her and asked wtf was going on. She replied with "Im still worried about a few things" Anyways, goto her parents, shes not there yet, we talk about what theyve done etc then she comes in. Her old man says along the lines of "RIght. you two need to organise yourselves, were sick of it and you either work it out or if you wanna be single, to put it bluntyly fuck off" So then she says "I feel Ive got to arrange my weeeknds etc around your mates" Shes know this for 3 - 4 weeks now! So I explained that Ive re-arranged my weekends for hockey for 3 fucking years. Her mother said "Well when you first started going out with her you knew about this" Yes, and have I moaned once? NO have I fuck! So we gets home, my piss is boiling and she says she is insecure at the moment. What the fuck do I do? She has NEVER re-arranged one of her do's for us, I know these circumstances are a little different but ive already cancelled a full weekend away for her. I feel like Im going out with a 11 year old who keeps crying to her parents for fuck sake. Anyways, she is out now with her SINGLE mate at the pub on a mountaineering club night so she can "Meet like minded people, weve been meaning to do this for years" Well, if you join that, Ill never fucking see you will I? I suppose thats my fucking fault? Sorry to bore you all but what the fuck can I do? Can I fucking win? She says she loves me and we can work it out but can we? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tom 14021 Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 Is that just walking up mountains then? I wouldn't mind that with the iPod in but I doubt I would join a club Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ewerk 31587 Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 Stick to your guns mate. If you cave in again it'll be just like it was, now's the time to set down the ground rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Craig 6700 Posted November 4, 2008 Share Posted November 4, 2008 I decided I would meet her Dad on Siunday and have a chat I feel like Im going out with a 11 year old who keeps crying to her parents for fuck sake. bit of hypocrasy there, surely? You'd do well not to involve parents IMHO. They're obviously biased towards their own and I think it's unfair to expect them to mediate. You need to sort this one out between you's with no outside influence. FWIW, I think she's unreasonable to expect you to change your plans, but then I think she's doing it deliberately to test you. Rather than bite back, you need to put some spin on it suggest that you will consider it, but only if she sacrifices something she's already got planned in order to do something with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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