Rayvin

Yeah, a lot of that sounds familiar. Are you sure your issue is that you're afraid of failure and it's not just one of not being sufficiently stimulated though? What makes you think the concern is failing?

Renton shared one where he was the interviewee. You could perhaps draw a conclusion here that we're sharing stories that put us in positions of power in order to make the sharing easier though?

Aye. There was an occupational psychologist who was with us for a while who would stare at you intensely while making assessments. I had her sit in with me while I was interviewing someone once and I could feel her eyes boring into the side of my head. I ended up forgetting how to speak on several occasions because it made me so uncomfortable.

This could also be true, and might explain my erratic test results

Admittedly I kind of whizzed through this, but I got ISFP from this one - which is totally at odds with my previous one from a professional setting, which came up with ENFP. Kind of makes me think I have a 'professional self' and a 'normal self'.

Same. I did the Meyers-Briggs test a while back for professional reasons and was rather stunned to find that I scored quite highly as an extrovert. I don't come across that way in normal life (except possibly in conversation with someone I know well). I'm sure therefore that the introversion is a learned survival response based on something bad in the past. It's interesting how we characterize our 'unique' psychological hang ups as fears, IMO. In most cases that is. Fear of failure, fear of public humiliation, fear of eye contact, etc. I wonder if fear is a bigger influence on our lives than something like hope or the pursuit of happiness.

Run that past me again, not sure I get it? What do you mean by shots? Agree with your earlier post on public speaking by the way. If I believe that no one can see me, I feel more confident. I much prefer driving at night for this reason.

Thanks for this, you've probably saved me an hour or so here!

While this is kind of amusing when told like this, it must also get quite annoying for you? Are you shy generally as well or is it just this one thing? Same for CT I guess.

Does the failure one come from a specific incident where failing had particularly bad consequences, or were you raised in a high pressure environment? I share aspects of the attention craving stuff too I think but it conflicts with my fear of being shown up - between the two concerns, I might actually come across as balanced (although in reality, both things are stressful for me).

You won a trials match? How did it compare to normal crucible?

Least you get the clan rewards if nothing else.

I haven't done that quest yet but I gather those are the best weapons in the game. I didn't really get to play tonight so no change at my end. Still stuck with the fucking plasma rifle...

I thought this was a joke at first but I'm assuming you're serious on re-reading. What about eye contact makes you uncomfortable?

After all this, watch them come racing out of the blocks against city and man u, winning them both 3-0 or something

I think a clan is the way forward tbh. I've asked our clan leader to set me up with a raid group of others. Or to let me join him next week.

Nice one. Only two milestones I have left for this week are the raid and trials of the nine. Obviously not gonna happen!

Incredibly she found a way of annulling it. 15 years after the fact mind you, but still. The Catholic church is remarkably pliable for things like this apparently.

No, it's her second marriage. First one collapsed a long time ago. And is probably responsible for many psychological issues I have

Basically think this will be interesting but also accept that people are generally a bit guarded about this stuff and that no one may want to contribute. While I've opened the thread with a particular conversation in mind, in order to actually contribute something to the discussion myself I'll say that I'm reading a book on pathological altruism. I bought it out of concern generated by some recent conversations with my mother, who (as a religious nut) has decided that even though she's unhappy in her marriage (natural break down, nothing nefarious in play really - her partner is a good guy who I get along with but some things just aren't meant to be). Anyway, she concluded that as she couldn't 'leave' without harming her relationship with both god and her family, and felt that her own needs were inferior in importance to these developments. Pathological altriusm isn't perhaps the an all encompassing term for this, but I thought it was close enough to warrant reading up on. Basically, it states that people who suffer from this way of thinking consistently put other people ahead of themselves, often to the detriment of themselves and usually to the detriment of the people they're supposedly putting ahead of them. Curiously, the book considers that this pattern of thinking could actually be the cause of genocidal tendencies as well, but I've not read that far in yet so I can't justify it As for my own psychological hang ups, I have a great many but I've also worked through a fair proportion. I have a rather intense fear/social phobia which centers around the expectation people may or may not have of me in social situations. Some of these things are pretty standard like fear of public speaking, but mine is perhaps a bit more debilitating than usual because it extends to doing things or avoiding doing things that are on occasion contrary to common sense in order to avoid subverting public expectation of me. So for instance, whenever I enter a publicly accessible building like a restaurant or something, if I'm in a group, I'll go second so as not to draw attention. Things like that. I hate driving for the same reason. Fortunately I also have a strong urge to overcome, so these kind of things haven't held me back career wise - but when the stakes are lower, I have a tendency to shy away in order to avoid making myself uncomfortable. I need to develop more of a 'fuck everyone, I don't care what you think' attitude, really, which is why I'm on here trying to learn from you guys Anyone else experience anything similar?

Yep, I'm making it.

Bumped the wrong thread here I guess. Do we have a psychology thread?

@adios Continued from the other thread What do you mean you picked up on personal flaws by playing 6 ways? You mean in game flaws or some deep psychological revelation?

It did? ( We should probably have a poker thread for this mind )

Doesn't sound any more boring than sitting at work doing emails tbh...