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Probably the first time in your life where Wykiki has posted without using the word 'cunt'.

Na, they’re here look. Someone brought Maddie McCann as a gift for Adam Johnson.

It really is.... Fucking love it. Honestly, think back 10 years..... Night and day.

https://x.com/athletic_en/status/1915036714835300533?s=12&t=_JhUCoDPCaDM2qiBf831Jw Someone’s missing

That’s older than me. Probably older than me dad

Based on my own experience, I'd reach out to them to discuss these very points with them - particularly around which pronouns they prefer you to use. They'll likely see it positively as your acceptance of their position and a willingness to be supportive of them. One of my good mates who I worked with for years had a daughter 2 years older than mine who I've known since she was a toddler. Lucie elected to transition in her mid-teens and is now known as Cal. My mate Steve talked to me at some length given it was a few years since my sister transitioned. The bottom line we both agree is it's vital to talk about it. They see it as absolute inclusion.

Furthermore she's absolutely despised by large sections of the trans community about her views on the very subject of what is a woman. Many years ago there was a t-shirt in circulation with the slogan "Trans women are women, get over it!". My sister chose to have a t-shirt of the same design made with the slogan "Trans women are men, get over it" and wore it at a public demonstration. A photo of her went viral on social media and she was subjected to quite horrendous abuse and death threats as a result. I'm not defending her position. As I've stated many times I refuse to be drawn either way on this subject and understand the views of both sides and ultimately, she's chosen to put herself in the firing line, but the level of abuse was, in my opinion, disproportionate and, as much as I try keep myself out of this minefield, it's really difficult when you can someone who shares the same parents as you and who you've known and looked up to for years being subjected to such horrendous commentary.

Cheers man, good if you to post that. Regarding my niece, we were asked to use their new name about two years ago, when they were 15ish. They dress as male, but in actual fact it’s more non-gender specific- jeans, band shirts etc. They keep their hair short. I still refer to them as my niece because other than being asked to use their new name, that’s all the info we’ve had. I use they/them because I don’t know what else to use, and niece because as far as I’m aware there isn’t a non-gender version. My Mrs’ family are all onboard, but just don’t ever talk about the stuff I’d like to know- just the basics, would they like be referred to as he/him, she/her, or they /them? Niece or Nephew? I suspect if things follow their logical course, the discussion will be had, but I’d have preferred it done so we don’t inadvertently upset them.

Aye, I disagree with your position but I understand how you've come to a different view to me.

We're not going to reach a point of agreement on this so best just left.

That’s not where fillet comes from

Happy to talk about it. Your second sentence is spot on. The focus tends naturally to be on the impact to the individual electing to transition - the impact to those around them becomes secondary. My sis announced she was transitioning in September 2012. She was married with 3 children aged at the time, 15, 12 & 10. I found out sometime down the line that the kids were informed only days before my Dad and I were. My other brother had known for about 6 months it was coming, as did my sister's wife. I'm hazy on the timings but i seem to recall her social transition (when she started to permanently offer appearance as the opposite gender) took place in the December and given she's a school teacher - that also had its massive challenges. My sister remains married - they'll be celebrating their 32nd anniversary this summer. The kids refer to my sister as she & her, but call her Dad. It all comes naturally to them and to me the 5 of them have shown enormous strength to remain united. My only anger towards my sister was she was so hell bent on pushing ahead with this, she didn't stop to acknowledge the impact on those close to her - particularly the kids. I remember asking early doors how their counselling was going which was met with "they don't need it, they're fine." which resulted in me losing my shit. The most common question I've been asked is if she is fully transitioned which she is, and I believe took place in 2016 - though I had no knowledge of it happening and didn't ask questions. They only reason I know it has and when it was is because I've read the first couple of chapters of her book. There's other impacts to consider - my Dad is coming up for 86 so was early 70s when all this came out - he still massively struggles with it and I know he's questioned himself whether he got something wrong - particularly when my sis said she'd known since the age of 3 that her gender wasn't right but elected to suppress it for the next 40-odd years . My Mam, passed away 28 years ago so knew nothing about it and for that, I'm glad. She'd not have coped. I struggle with it as well - I'm 9 years younger so the person who I witnessed demonstrating typically masculine adolescence behaviour was in fact living a massive lie - she's admitted as much. My own way of dealing with it is that pre-December 2012, I had an older brother, David and any reference that predates that I use male pronouns. Since then, I've had an older sister, Debbie and any reference after that point I use feminine pronouns. It confuses my other half at times but it's the only way I can get my head around the whole thing.

Imagine how much he’d improve the church? He’d have your average championship level priests pressing at a Joelinton level. Thoughts and prayers to the throats and arseholes of their choir boys.

Their DoF of football is a Newcastle lad. If Big Mitch summer turns into a damp flop then Giles would be the next man I'd be getting in.

As a side subject, how good is Brentford's recent transfer record? Sold Watkins for £33m and replaced him with Ivan Toney for £10m Sold Toney for £40m and replaced him with Wissa who'd cost them £8.5m Wissa (16) & Mbeuno (18) have 34 goals between them this season. Watkins has 15.

I’d forgotten your sis is trans mate. That whole experience must’ve been challenging for everyone concerned. One of my nieces is probably going to transition soon- they have already asked everyone to call them by their (male) name of choice, and once they reach 18 I’d imagine the full process will begin. How long did the transition take in your sisters case, if you’re ok talking about it?

Well... yes. It has been going on in other countries without happening so it's entirely irrational to think that the UK would be any different.

Cardinal sin.

In the absence of definitively proven evidence, I prefer not to be drawn in either direction and I'd prefer even more to be not told what my position should be. Hugely emotive subject where too many people who aren't directly impacted draw their own conclusions and consider them to be sacrosanct. People have no validity to express concerns for safety unless in the presence of previously recorded examples?

My cousin went to the City Baths at the weekend and saw this canny boiler smiling at him.. So he goes over to her and says; 'Alreet Pet, are ye flirtin?' 'Nah Pet, I'm on me tiptoes'

I've changed my mind on engaging in this further, just forget I said anything.

They really went hard in strengthening their attacking options for the champions league and did exceptionally well in it. My only real concern is that we qualify, but if they don't it will be advantageous to us and other teams competing for CL positions next season as they'll surely have to sell some quality players so as to not be absolutely taking the piss with PSR.

true, but enough about parky. he stopped posting here years ago

I have a view that is entirely open to change on the basis of actual evidence. That's my default position on everything, and it should be yours.